You are not alone.

Dear reader,

Compulsive behaviour linked to sex and love can take a number of forms. It may involve engaging in sexual activities that affect our own emotional and mental well-being, or that affect the emotional well-being of people around us. For some it may involve excessive obsession with a destructive relationship or affair or attachment to emotionally unavailable people. For others it may involve continuous fantasy about sex or romance or compulsive behaviour related to porn.

If you feel that you have attempted to control behaviours linked to sex or love but you soon returned to destructive patterns that are causing you or people close to you discomfort and pain, please feel free to seek help through Sex and Love Addicts Malaysia.

S.L.A.A. Malaysia welcomes anyone that wishes to receive help from a pattern of sex and love addiction. Special care and protection of the anonymity of members is a fundamental principle of the group. The only requirement for anyone who wishes to join S.L.A.A. Malaysia is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addition and a willingness to recovery and live a healthy life. S.L.A.A. Malaysia is a 12 step and 12 tradition oriented recovery fellowship.

If you would like to reach out for help and attend a meeting please contact us through email:

We look forward to hearing from you.

Disclaimer: Kindly note that S.L.A.A. Malaysia does not speak for all of S.L.A.A. This website is not the official S.L.A.A. Fellowship-Wide Services (F.W.S.) website. We are autonomous except in matters affecting other Groups or S.L.A.A. as a whole.

57 thoughts on “You are not alone.

  1. Hi

    I attended meetings in the UK from 1999 – 2001, then re-lapsed. Been in Malaysia from 2011. Just discovered your existence.

    Unsure if you can help, but could I attend a meeting please ?


  2. I need help. I just get to know with this method and I think I require this very urgently. I am being destroyed.

  3. I need help as I can’t stop thinking and doing things that are against the norm and will put my family and life in jeopardy. I have chronic addiction to sex where I must have sex to feel loved and to have the sense of belonging.

    Please help me.

  4. I am age 35 female, who have been through repeated cycle of unhealthy relationship. Confused if I have the capability to love . I need help .

  5. Hello,

    I came across this website while searching on how to stop addiction from pornography. I would like to ask how is it going to be conducted? And if i wish to join what should i do?


  6. I have been cheating on my gf cum wife for the past 20 years till today. I keep repeating it after some time .i need to control It and focus always without me turning back.

    My wife came to know so many times and again Today. I’m looking at a permanent solution and ways To back into the right path

  7. I am coming to KL this weekend could you please give me details of the SLAA or SAA meetings in KL. Many thanks

  8. hello
    i am iz. I think i have problem. everytime i looked at women i be the imagining them naked. i love pornography. i’ve been watching porn since i am 12, even i am married now but still i am not satisfied with sex. me and wife aren’t frequent having sex. i wanted it but don’t because of tired of works. i have to use others option to pleasure myself by watching porn and masturbate. am i a sex addictive?..please advise thank alot

  9. Hai,
    Anak lelaki sy 24 tahun kerap melancap dan berbogel tanpa rasa malu di hadapan kami…
    Boleh kah anda membantu kami sekeluarga…
    Saya amat memerlukan pertolongan segera
    Terima kasih

  10. Iam addicted to have sex with other men even i already have a husband..i always talk about sex at wasap with random men and phone sex..event sleep with them if i got the change..

  11. Hi

    I wish to meet up with your counselling team or group of people with the same condition as me. I am married but has high sex drive, my spouse has low drive. Resulting from tht Im constantly hooked up with porn and masturbation. I believe help is needed as I am depriving emotionally waiting for the chance to have sex with my spouse but end up doing it solo to release.

  12. Hi, my name is Sarah. I’ve been stuggling with porn addiction for years.

    I’ve been working on neutralising my sexual compulsion these days by learning about the brain on porn, and other neurological, behavioral response to pornography, I’ve tried to get more exposure on this issue from the internet and increase my awareness to it. I’ve tried many things to the best of my ability.

    However, I find it difficult to stay on track as I often relapse. After putting my thoughts and efforts in tackling this problem, I found out that I’ll tend to relapse when I experience stresses, when i’m under pressure, when i felt ashamed, embarassed, anxious, sad, lonely and depressed (that’s all – at this moment, I can’t think of other situations that creates a lot of negative feelings which contribute to my relapse).

    I often relapsed a few moments after I had experienced such situations and feelings that made me wanted to shut myself from the world and indulged in my fantasies. Although i’m studying mindfullness, cognitive-behavioural therapy, trying self-hypnosis and other stuffs along the way, I find it very hard to avoid from relapsing because there seem to be a flatline phase I feel after days of committing no fap.

    It’s quite easy to start no fap but It’s very hard to get through the flatline phase when I’m facing difficult situations and experience negative feelings along the way. I tend to relapse the more I feel lonely and have nothing to support me or people to talk to, and constantly feeling negative etc. It’s hard.

    I’m tired of this and I’m scared of what this behaviour will turn me into in the future. I don’t want it to be more severe. I know if I didn’t seek help, i’ll eventually end up to a darker place that i couldn’t imagine I would be. And I don’t want to take myself there either. Ever.

    I hope this message will reach you, who’s willing to help me get through this and I wish you nothing but success in everything that you do.


  13. Hi , my husband is 40 yrs old and we have 3 kids. He can have sex 2-3 times in a day. I cant handle it and now i found he is having an affair because i could not fulfill he sex requests. Pls help me. I love him so much but i am worried he might leave me and my kids. The other girl is 25 yrs old and he is enjoying with her. Its very hurting and i need help.

  14. Hi.. sincerely i need treatment for this pornography addiction.

    Please contact me, if u can provide help. i’m in Sarawak

    • Hi Khairul, our meetings are based in KL. However, we do online meetings for now on jitsi application due to MCO. Do email us for more info. Tq. I apologize for late responses.

  15. Salam and morning. My name is S. I’m sorry for not posting my name.

    Im addicted to porn. I need help.

    May i know if there is any support group/psychologist/psychiatrist that can help me?

    I’m staying in KL, Malaysia

    • We apologise as our physical meetings are based in Kuala Lumpur. Due to MCO however, our meetings are currently performed online. For more information, kindly email us. Thanks.

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